Wednesday, April 30, 2008

The business of friendship

Today I do something, not sure if I should. I delete my photo on a social networking website, which had brought me many comments and unsolicited requests for friendship from males younger and older to me.
I had added my picture when I joined Tagged not realising that it would be viewed by many a stranger, since I was responding only to a request from a family member to join the club. I dont know if it was because the site took time to register me or what but the massive influx of friendship requests began coming only in the past 2 months. For a while it annoyed me especially when a guy kept making repeated efforts "to add me as a friend" but I didnt know how to delete my picture. I somehow managed to change my profile to the private domain and highlight the fact that I was married, but it didnt stop the requests.
I must admit that it boosted my ego a bit when my mail inbox kept flooding like that. But lately it made me sit up when I saw a couple of comments - such as "you have a rare and beautiful smile" (come on, I am not even smiling in the pic, just plonking on a chair sweating and tired after a hard day's work in the kitchen during one of our maidless days) or "U hv cute baby. R u housewife??? I liked ur Baby very much, she has familiar nose like u, may be taken colour of her Dad :)) ...God Bless her and make her future Bright like her colour".
Huh? Ha ha haaaaa.
So I decided I had enough of this nonsense and spent some time trying to figure out how to delete the pic. I succeeded, but it hasnt stopped the solicitors of friendship. Maybe they will soon when they see a faceless profile for long.
Like everyone else around, I have Orkut and Facebook accounts too but I hardly every open them. I am too old for scrapbooking and flagging and stuff. Maybe I will need to delete those accounts too soon.

2 comments:

Lijy said...

:)

you have been tagged.... enjoy

Anonymous said...

Agree. I am on orkut and facebook too, but find some of the networking tools farcial and annoying. There is also the huge risk of identity thefts.
In Liberia till 10th. Speak to you soon.
Kochumon

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